I am facing this same dilemma. I really don’t want my daughter to go to college “to discover who she is”. I cannot think of a worse place for this. Perhaps 30 years ago when I was a dumb kid it was different. It certainly was cheaper and less rigid regarding social and political indoctrination. I acknowledge that there are some professions that require a college degree and as such you must go to college to pursue them. But at that point you know who you are (at least you think you do), and at least you know what you want to be (for now). Forking over tens of thousands of dollars to crooked charlatans who would probably be facing jail time if they ran a company the way they run their colleges does not seem like an effective way to advance as a human being. It is financially disastrous, emotionally shallow, and intellectually stifling. And I know my daughter is not going to listen to me. So I should just shut up.